I like how fb changed the RSVPing for events from “not going” to “can’t go,” like you’re sorry about it. Where’s “you couldn’t pay me”?
— Jaya Saxena (@jayasax) July 23, 2015
Jaya: This Facebook thing is freaking me out. Like, no, you don’t get to assume that if my plans open up I’ll be there. I think it’s very emblematic of the way we expect people to RSVP now. That if there is an event, unless they have previous plans or are deathly ill, they will come. Whereas no, you can just turn down an invitation and never have to give a reason, even as small of a reason as “I have other plans”
Victoria: Is that an expectation?
Jaya: I think it’s getting to be one. More like, if you say you’re not going, there has to be a reason. Sometimes you just don’t want to go!
Victoria: Hmmm interesting
Jaya: Or sometimes there is a reason but you don’t want to say it.
Victoria: I guess I don’t get invited to much that I don’t want to go to. Or like, it’s not a real invitation.
Jaya: Omg I get so many random FB event invitations.
Jaya: And I know a lot of those don’t come with the same expectations.
Victoria: I think I have my notifications for events like that turned off? Cause I just went to my events page and I’m like hey, a million events!
Jaya: Ahhh. But yeah I think it’s a difference. “Not going” is more vague. “Can’t go” suggests there is something preventing you from going.
Victoria: Yeah, definitely. Although, I suppose it’s just semantics. I can’t go [because I don’t want to go] still works. But yeah, I do think Not Going is a bit more neutral. I’ll get Mark Zuckerberg on the phone and let him know.
I did actually have a weird thing recently- I couldn’t go to an because I was out of town, but once I replied “Not Going” I didn’t seem to be able to post on the wall the reason why. But maybe that was a FB app issue.
Jaya: Hmmm weird. That might be a phone thing yeah.
Victoria: So that was much more annoying to me, that I couldn’t actually give a reason why I couldn’t go when I did have one.